{"id":6853,"date":"2026-04-13T20:00:51","date_gmt":"2026-04-13T13:00:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.hullo.dating\/?p=6853"},"modified":"2026-02-28T10:16:42","modified_gmt":"2026-02-28T03:16:42","slug":"benching-trong-dating-app-van-hoa-giu-nhieu-lua-chon-co-dang-lo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.hullo.dating\/vi\/benching-trong-dating-app-van-hoa-giu-nhieu-lua-chon-co-dang-lo\/","title":{"rendered":"Benching trong dating app: V\u0103n h\u00f3a \u201cgi\u1eef nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn\u201d c\u00f3 \u0111\u00e1ng lo?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Trong th\u1eddi \u0111\u1ea1i s\u1ed1, ch\u1ec9 v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t c\u00fa vu\u1ed1t, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i v\u1edbi h\u00e0ng tr\u0103m ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u00ean dating app. S\u1ef1 ti\u1ec7n l\u1ee3i n\u00e0y t\u1ea1o ra c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i m\u1edf r\u1ed9ng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 nhanh ch\u00f3ng, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi c\u0169ng k\u00e9o theo m\u1ed9t xu h\u01b0\u1edbng g\u00e2y nhi\u1ec1u tranh c\u00e3i: benching<\/em> \u2013 gi\u1eef m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1edf tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i \u201cd\u1ef1 ph\u00f2ng\u201d trong khi v\u1eabn t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

Theo Pew Research Center, kho\u1ea3ng 30% ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh t\u1ea1i M\u1ef9 t\u1eebng s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng \u1ee9ng d\u1ee5ng h\u1eb9n h\u00f2, v\u00e0 h\u01a1n m\u1ed9t n\u1eeda trong s\u1ed1 h\u1ecd cho bi\u1ebft t\u1eebng tr\u1ea3i qua tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m thi\u1ebfu r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng v\u1ec1 m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 nghi\u00eam t\u00fac c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y cho th\u1ea5y m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng online dating t\u1ea1o \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n cho c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 m\u1eadp m\u1edd ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n.<\/p>\n

S\u1ef1 d\u01b0 th\u1eeba l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn khi\u1ebfn nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi r\u01a1i v\u00e0o t\u00e2m l\u00fd \u201cgi\u1eef c\u1eeda sau\u201d, kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n t\u1eeb b\u1ecf b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i n\u00e0o qu\u00e1 s\u1edbm. Tuy nhi\u00ean, \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m x\u00f3i m\u00f2n ni\u1ec1m tin v\u00e0 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1.<\/p>\n

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Benching trong dating app l\u00e0 h\u00e0nh vi gi\u1eef m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1edf tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i \u201cch\u1edd s\u1eb5n\u201d m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ti\u1ebfn t\u1edbi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n benching v\u1eabn duy tr\u00ec li\u00ean l\u1ea1c t\u1ed1i thi\u1ec3u (nh\u1eafn tin r\u1ea3i r\u00e1c, th\u1ea3 reaction, h\u1ee9a h\u1eb9n m\u01a1 h\u1ed3) trong khi ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn kh\u00e1c. V\u0103n h\u00f3a \u201cgi\u1eef nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn\u201d c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 g\u00e2y t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac v\u00e0 l\u00e0m gi\u1ea3m s\u1ef1 minh b\u1ea1ch trong h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ea1i.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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Benching trong dating app l\u00e0 g\u00ec v\u00e0 v\u00ec sao ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn?<\/h2>\n

Benching b\u1eaft ngu\u1ed3n t\u1eeb thu\u1eadt ng\u1eef th\u1ec3 thao \u201cng\u1ed3i gh\u1ebf d\u1ef1 b\u1ecb\u201d. Trong b\u1ed1i c\u1ea3nh h\u1eb9n h\u00f2, n\u00f3 m\u00f4 t\u1ea3 h\u00e0nh vi gi\u1eef ai \u0111\u00f3 trong danh s\u00e1ch li\u00ean h\u1ec7 ti\u1ec1m n\u0103ng nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ea7u t\u01b0 nghi\u00eam t\u00fac.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u r\u00f5 h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 kh\u00e1i ni\u1ec7m n\u00e0y, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tham kh\u1ea3o b\u00e0i ph\u00e2n t\u00edch chuy\u00ean s\u00e2u t\u1ea1i Benching l\u00e0 g\u00ec? \u00dd ngh\u0129a v\u00e0 t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a n\u00f3 \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Gi\u1eefa m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn, benching kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n l\u00e0 hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng hi\u1ebfm g\u1eb7p.<\/p>\n

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Trong dating app, benching x\u1ea3y ra khi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi duy tr\u00ec li\u00ean l\u1ea1c \u1edf m\u1ee9c t\u1ed1i thi\u1ec3u nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng cam k\u1ebft hay x\u00e1c \u0111\u1ecbnh m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. Nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n th\u01b0\u1eddng li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn hi\u1ec7u \u1ee9ng qu\u00e1 t\u1ea3i l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn, t\u00e2m l\u00fd FOMO (s\u1ee3 b\u1ecf l\u1ee1 c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n) v\u00e0 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng t\u1ed1i \u01b0u h\u00f3a l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n. T\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a benching bao g\u1ed3m gi\u1ea3m t\u1ef1 tin, t\u0103ng lo \u00e2u v\u00e0 l\u00e0m suy y\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 tin t\u01b0\u1edfng. Gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p n\u1eb1m \u1edf giao ti\u1ebfp minh b\u1ea1ch, thi\u1ebft l\u1eadp ranh gi\u1edbi r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng v\u00e0 l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn n\u1ec1n t\u1ea3ng khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch s\u1ef1 nghi\u00eam t\u00fac.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Hi\u1ec7u \u1ee9ng qu\u00e1 t\u1ea3i l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn<\/h3>\n

Nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u t\u1eeb Columbia Business School\u00a0 ch\u1ec9 ra r\u1eb1ng khi con ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn, h\u1ecd c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng tr\u00ec ho\u00e3n quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh v\u00e0 \u00edt h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng v\u1edbi l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng. Dating app v\u1edbi h\u00e0ng tr\u0103m h\u1ed3 s\u01a1 m\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111i\u1ec3n h\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n

T\u00e2m l\u00fd FOMO trong h\u1eb9n h\u00f2<\/h3>\n

Statista cho th\u1ea5y nh\u00f3m ng\u01b0\u1eddi d\u00f9ng 18\u201334 tu\u1ed5i th\u01b0\u1eddng duy tr\u00ec nhi\u1ec1u cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n c\u00f9ng l\u00fac. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y l\u00e0m t\u0103ng kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng \u201cgi\u1eef gh\u1ebf d\u1ef1 b\u1ecb\u201d thay v\u00ec t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3.<\/p>\n

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D\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u b\u1ea1n \u0111ang b\u1ecb benching<\/h2>\n

Li\u00ean l\u1ea1c kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec1u nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t<\/h3>\n

Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ed9ng g\u1eb7p m\u1eb7t nh\u01b0ng v\u1eabn nh\u1eafn tin th\u0103m h\u1ecfi \u0111\u1ecbnh k\u1ef3, th\u1ea3 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac story ho\u1eb7c duy tr\u00ec t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u00e1c \u1edf m\u1ee9c t\u1ed1i thi\u1ec3u.<\/p>\n

H\u1ee9a h\u1eb9n m\u01a1 h\u1ed3 v\u1ec1 t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai<\/h3>\n

C\u00e1c c\u00e2u nh\u01b0 \u201c\u0110\u1ec3 khi n\u00e0o r\u1ea3nh m\u00ecnh g\u1eb7p nh\u00e9\u201d xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd c\u00f3 k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3.<\/p>\n

N\u00e9 tr\u00e1nh x\u00e1c \u0111\u1ecbnh m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7<\/h3>\n

Khi b\u1ea1n h\u1ecfi v\u1ec1 m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau l\u00e2u d\u00e0i, h\u1ecd chuy\u1ec3n ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 ho\u1eb7c tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi chung chung.<\/p>\n

Benching kh\u00f4ng \u1ed3n \u00e0o nh\u01b0 ghosting, nh\u01b0ng l\u1ea1i k\u00e9o d\u00e0i v\u00e0 d\u1ec5 g\u00e2y t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng \u00e2m th\u1ea7m.<\/p>\n

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T\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng t\u00e2m l\u00fd c\u1ee7a benching<\/h2>\n

Theo American Psychological Association, s\u1ef1 t\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 k\u00edch ho\u1ea1t c\u00f9ng v\u00f9ng n\u00e3o li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111au th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5t. Khi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ecb gi\u1eef \u1edf tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i \u201ckh\u00f4ng r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng\u201d, h\u1ecd d\u1ec5 r\u01a1i v\u00e0o c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c thi\u1ebfu gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb.<\/p>\n

Nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u \u0111\u0103ng tr\u00ean t\u1ea1p ch\u00ed Computers in Human Behavior n\u0103m 2022 c\u0169ng cho th\u1ea5y c\u00e1c t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u00e1c thi\u1ebfu cam k\u1ebft tr\u00ean m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng s\u1ed1 li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng v\u00e0 b\u1ea5t an cao h\u01a1n \u1edf ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1ebb.<\/p>\n

C\u00e1c h\u1ec7 qu\u1ea3 th\u01b0\u1eddng g\u1eb7p g\u1ed3m:<\/p>\n