{"id":2127,"date":"2024-05-29T15:27:50","date_gmt":"2024-05-29T15:27:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.hullo.dating\/?p=2127"},"modified":"2026-03-29T13:31:07","modified_gmt":"2026-03-29T06:31:07","slug":"submarining","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.hullo.dating\/vi\/submarining\/","title":{"rendered":"Submarining: Khi Ng\u01b0\u1eddi T\u1eebng Bi\u1ebfn M\u1ea5t B\u1ea5t Ng\u1edd Quay L\u1ea1i Cu\u1ed9c S\u1ed1ng B\u1ea1n"},"content":{"rendered":"
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B\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 bao gi\u1edd g\u1eb7p m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1eebng r\u1ea5t th\u00e2n thi\u1ebft, r\u1ed3i b\u1ed7ng nhi\u00ean bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n kh\u1ecfi cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, kh\u00f4ng m\u1ed9t l\u1eddi gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch?<\/p>\n

B\u1ea1n d\u1ea7n quen v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n h\u1ecd n\u1eefa, b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u \u1ed5n \u0111\u1ecbnh l\u1ea1i c\u1ea3m x\u00fac, th\u00ec m\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y h\u1ecd quay l\u1ea1i, nh\u1eafn tin, h\u1ecfi th\u0103m, th\u1eadm ch\u00ed mu\u1ed1n ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 nh\u01b0 tr\u01b0\u1edbc.<\/p>\n

Kh\u00f4ng xin l\u1ed7i. Kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eafc l\u1ea1i chuy\u1ec7n c\u0169.
Ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 quay l\u1ea1i nh\u01b0 ch\u01b0a t\u1eebng r\u1eddi \u0111i.<\/p>\n

\ud83d\udc49 \u0110\u00f3 ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 Submarining.<\/p>\n

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Submarining l\u00e0 h\u00e0nh vi trong t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m khi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n r\u1ed3i quay l\u1ea1i sau m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi gian d\u00e0i m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch. H\u1ecd th\u01b0\u1eddng h\u00e0nh x\u1eed nh\u01b0 ch\u01b0a t\u1eebng r\u1eddi \u0111i, khi\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i r\u01a1i v\u00e0o tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i b\u1ed1i r\u1ed1i v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac b\u1ecb x\u00e1o tr\u1ed9n.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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Submarining l\u00e0 g\u00ec?<\/h2>\n

Submarining l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t thu\u1eadt ng\u1eef trong h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ea1i, d\u00f9ng \u0111\u1ec3 m\u00f4 t\u1ea3 h\u00e0nh vi khi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed9t ng\u1ed9t bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t kh\u1ecfi cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 l\u1eddi gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch n\u00e0o, r\u1ed3i sau m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi gian l\u1ea1i quay l\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch b\u1ea5t ng\u1edd.<\/p>\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t \u1edf Submarining kh\u00f4ng n\u1eb1m \u1edf vi\u1ec7c h\u1ecd r\u1eddi \u0111i, m\u00e0 l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch h\u1ecd quay l\u1ea1i. H\u1ecd h\u00e0nh x\u1eed nh\u01b0 m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 v\u1eabn b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng, nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 kho\u1ea3ng th\u1eddi gian bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t ch\u01b0a t\u1eebng t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i.<\/p>\n

H\u00ecnh \u1ea3nh \u201ct\u00e0u ng\u1ea7m\u201d \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u00f9ng \u0111\u1ec3 m\u00f4 t\u1ea3 h\u00e0nh vi n\u00e0y: l\u1eb7n xu\u1ed1ng, bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t kh\u1ecfi t\u1ea7m nh\u00ecn, r\u1ed3i b\u1ea5t ng\u1edd n\u1ed5i l\u00ean khi kh\u00f4ng ai ng\u1edd t\u1edbi.<\/p>\n

V\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1ea3i qua, c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c n\u00e0y th\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 vui m\u1eebng, m\u00e0 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 pha tr\u1ed9n gi\u1eefa t\u00f2 m\u00f2, kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu v\u00e0 c\u1ea3 t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng ch\u01b0a k\u1ecbp l\u00e0nh.<\/p>\n

H\u00e0nh vi n\u00e0y th\u01b0\u1eddng b\u1ecb nh\u1ea7m v\u1edbi ghosting ho\u1eb7c breadcrumbing. Tuy nhi\u00ean, \u0111i\u1ec3m kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t l\u1edbn nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 quay l\u1ea1i. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n hi\u1ec3u r\u00f5 h\u01a1n, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ecdc th\u00eam t\u1ea1i breadcrumbing vs submarining<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

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L\u00e0m sao \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn ra b\u1ea1n \u0111ang b\u1ecb Submarining?<\/h2>\n

Kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00fac n\u00e0o s\u1ef1 quay l\u1ea1i c\u0169ng d\u1ec5 nh\u1eadn ra ngay. Nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu \u0111\u1ec3 \u00fd k\u1ef9, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u kh\u00e1 r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng.<\/p>\n

Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 t\u1eebng bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n kh\u1ecfi cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. Kh\u00f4ng tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi tin nh\u1eafn, kh\u00f4ng nghe \u0111i\u1ec7n tho\u1ea1i, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u n\u00e0o cho th\u1ea5y h\u1ecd v\u1eabn mu\u1ed1n duy tr\u00ec k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i.<\/p>\n

Sau m\u1ed9t kho\u1ea3ng th\u1eddi gian \u2014 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 v\u00e0i tu\u1ea7n, v\u00e0i th\u00e1ng \u2014 h\u1ecd b\u1ea5t ng\u1edd xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i. H\u1ecd nh\u1eafn tin, h\u1ecfi th\u0103m, th\u1eadm ch\u00ed r\u1ee7 g\u1eb7p nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 v\u1eabn b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng.<\/p>\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e1ng n\u00f3i l\u00e0 h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00f3. N\u1ebfu c\u00f3, \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do r\u1ea5t m\u01a1 h\u1ed3 ho\u1eb7c n\u00e9 tr\u00e1nh.<\/p>\n

V\u00e0 quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t: h\u1ecd mong mu\u1ed1n ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn ra \u2014 ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f4ng quan t\u00e2m \u2014 r\u1eb1ng h\u00e0nh vi c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 g\u00e2y t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng cho b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n

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M\u1ed9t v\u00ed d\u1ee5 r\u1ea5t th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf v\u1ec1 Submarining<\/h2>\n

H\u00e3y t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng m\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n.<\/p>\n

B\u1ea1n v\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u nhau. M\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n kh\u00e1 t\u1ed1t, b\u1ea1n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i v\u00e0 tin t\u01b0\u1edfng h\u01a1n. Nh\u01b0ng r\u1ed3i m\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y, h\u1ecd bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t. Kh\u00f4ng tin nh\u1eafn, kh\u00f4ng l\u1eddi gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch.<\/p>\n

B\u1ea1n ch\u1edd m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i ng\u00e0y. R\u1ed3i v\u00e0i tu\u1ea7n. Cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng, b\u1ea1n ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 r\u1eddi \u0111i.<\/p>\n

Ba th\u00e1ng sau, h\u1ecd nh\u1eafn l\u1ea1i:
\u201cD\u1ea1o n\u00e0y c\u1eadu sao r\u1ed3i?\u201d<\/p>\n

Kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eafc g\u00ec \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t. Kh\u00f4ng xin l\u1ed7i. Ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 quay l\u1ea1i.<\/p>\n

\ud83d\udc49 \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 Submarining.<\/p>\n

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V\u00ec sao ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta l\u1ea1i l\u00e0m v\u1eady?<\/h2>\n

\u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi khi\u1ebfn nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eafc k\u1eb9t nh\u1ea5t. V\u00e0 c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00f4ng d\u1ec5 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn.<\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t v\u00ec h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng cam k\u1ebft. Khi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u tr\u1edf n\u00ean nghi\u00eam t\u00fac h\u01a1n, h\u1ecd ch\u1ecdn c\u00e1ch r\u00fat lui thay v\u00ec \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n.<\/p>\n

C\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1ea1i \u0111ang g\u1eb7p v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n, nh\u01b0ng thay v\u00ec chia s\u1ebb, h\u1ecd ch\u1ecdn im l\u1eb7ng v\u00e0 bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t.<\/p>\n

C\u0169ng c\u00f3 tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p, h\u1ecd r\u1eddi \u0111i \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm nh\u1eefng l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn kh\u00e1c. V\u00e0 khi nh\u1eefng l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng nh\u01b0 mong \u0111\u1ee3i, h\u1ecd quay l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t \u201cph\u01b0\u01a1ng \u00e1n quen thu\u1ed9c\u201d.<\/p>\n

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N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n t\u1eebng r\u01a1i v\u00e0o v\u00f2ng l\u1eb7p c\u1ea3m x\u00fac nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, Hullo gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng h\u01a1n ngay t\u1eeb \u0111\u1ea7u thay v\u00ec ph\u1ea3i \u0111o\u00e1n \u00fd qua t\u1eebng h\u00e0nh vi:\u00a0 hullo.dating<\/a><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

M\u1ed9t l\u00fd do kh\u00e1c kh\u00e1 ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn l\u00e0 thi\u1ebfu k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng giao ti\u1ebfp. H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch k\u1ebft th\u00fac m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 ho\u1eb7c gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft xung \u0111\u1ed9t, n\u00ean ch\u1ecdn c\u00e1ch d\u1ec5 nh\u1ea5t: bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t.<\/p>\n

\ud83d\udc49 N\u00f3i c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c, vi\u1ec7c h\u1ecd quay l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng nh\u1ea5t thi\u1ebft l\u00e0 v\u00ec h\u1ecd tr\u00e2n tr\u1ecdng b\u1ea1n, m\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ec9 v\u00ec h\u1ecd ch\u01b0a h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1ch r\u1eddi \u0111i \u0111\u00fang c\u00e1ch.<\/p>\n

\ud83d\udc49 N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n t\u1eebng tr\u1ea3i qua t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ecdc th\u00eam t\u1ea1i ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1eebng l\u00e0m b\u1ea1n t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng l\u1ea1i quay l\u1ea1i<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

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Submarining \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o?<\/h2>\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a Submarining kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t, m\u00e0 l\u00e0 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac b\u1ecb k\u00e9o ng\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i.<\/p>\n

B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y:<\/p>\n